How to Deal With Rejection From A Woman Early On
There are two types of dating rejection. Both hurt just as much, and both can be just as bruising to the ego (if you let it be). Rejection happens to everyone at some point or another and it sucks, big time. Here’s how to deal with it.
Situation 1 – You ask a woman out and she rejects you
It probably took you a while just to get up the nerve to ask that woman out for the very reason of rejection. It goes without saying that if there was no fear of rejection, we would be confidently asking everyone we want to out.
The rejection that we imagine is technically the worst case scenario. Which is why our goal is usually to completely avoid it. However, when you do get rejected by a woman, it is not normally as bad as you imagined. Remember that to help you go ahead and approach a woman with a little less fear.
If you do approach her, and you do get rejected, then you have to remind yourself of two things:
1. Don’t take it personally and let it affect your self esteem.
Your first thought may be, “I’m not attractive enough for her,” but the truth is that women don’t usually reject because of that reason alone.
There may be other reasons, such as she doesn’t want a relationship right now, she is a lesbian, she has issues she needs to deal with before getting into a relationship, her mother is sick and she has no time for dating, and the list goes on and on.
As you can see, there are many reasons besides your appearance, and most of those reasons have nothing to do with you! In fact, most of the time when a woman rejects you, it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them and where they are in life right now.
2. It’s probably for the better.
Sometimes women (and men) will date someone even though they are not really into that person, and end the ‘relationship’ after the other person has started to feel something more. Try to appreciate that she rejected you right off the bat before you started to feel strong emotions for her and THEN she decided to reject you.
Now you can move on and find someone else who will not only accept a date with you, but another and another and another…
Situation 2 – You get rejected during or directly after the date
This sucks way worse than situation 1, especially if you found yourself enjoying the date and thought there was chemistry and another date was in your future.
Again, you have to take this gracefully and remind yourself that it’s better now than after a few months of dating.
Unfortunately she didn’t feel that you clicked together and, thankfully, she is being honest with you instead of leading you on and playing with your feelings.
Really, if she didn’t say anything to you, then you would be going out with someone who was considering not dating you at all anymore, and wouldn’t that be worse? I think so.
Just remember that if she doesn’t like you for who you are, that’s okay. There are plenty of other people out there who will. And now, thanks to the rejection, you can get to those people quicker.