My Cheating Husband Wants the Marriage and His Mistress


My husband had an affair and the result was a baby. He does not want a divorce because we own a business together and he can’t stand the idea of being away from our daughter. He has told me he does not love me and is still seeing the other woman AND spending time with the child they had.

He also agreed to pay a large sum of child support without consulting me. I’m very angry because he is making decisions without my input and has put me in a position of being the one to decide if we divorce or not. He made these mistakes, why can’t he be the one to make that awful decision? What should I do?

What to Consider

You will one day make a decision about divorce based on what is best for you and your daughter. Right now it seems like an awful decision but the longer he disrespects you and the marriage the less awful the decision will seem.

He is probably not making the decision to divorce because he knows it will make him look bad. It is far easier for a man to say “my wife left me” than “I left my wife.” He is leaving the nasty work up to you so that he can save face. Too bad he doesn’t realize that fathering a child outside his marriage took care of any good image he might have had.

I suggest you do what you feel you need to do at this time. Take the situation day by day; don’t rush into anything until you are ready. He is very busy taking care of himself and getting what he needs out of life. You need to take his lead. File for divorce when the time is right for you, not for any other reason.

You may feel that, at this time, he is calling all the shots but, you have the power within you to take control in spite of what he does and doesn’t want. You will soon feel empowered enough to start acting in your own best interest. 

In the meantime take care of yourself emotionally and physically. Pay attention to your diet, distract yourself from the problems he is causing by engaging in activities you enjoy. And, most importantly shelter your daughter from any conflict between the two of you. It is a parent’s responsibility to put their child’s needs first. He has failed to do that and you need to pick up the slack.

You should also ready yourself for the legal process of divorce. Consult with a divorce attorney to see what your legal rights are. Make copies of all legal documents related to your business, personal bank accounts, retirement accounts, and investment accounts. Keep those copies in a safe place until you decide what steps you want to take.

There is more to divorce than filing for divorce. You have to take care of the financial, legal and emotional aspects of divorce for the sake of your financial future. Now is the time for you to get all your ducks in a row. It will make the divorce process much easier when you become empowered enough on your own to make that “awful” decision. Good luck!

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