Signs You Will Never Get Married
Some people don’t think about marriage much and consider it an old-fashioned concept. The number of marriages in America peaked in the early 1980s. Fewer people are getting married today than at any time in modern U.S. history.
For many people of all ages, marriage is still a sign that you deeply loved someone and want to spend the rest of your life with them. People cite the following reasons for wanting to get married:
- They want children
- It’s cheaper to get married than live together
- Married couples are good for a neighborhood
- Marriage is good for the economy
- Moms and children have better insurance
- Religious reasons
- True love and commitment
All types of people get married. Your age, income, health, looks, background, or interests won’t put you on the “not marriage material” list. There’s a saying that “There’s someone for everyone,” and this is true.
Some people may not want to get married for various reasons. The reasons may be financial or legal. Others may enjoy their freedom and not want to be tied down to one person or place.
How to Tell You Will Never Get Married
Here are some signs you will never get married. We’ve included general reasons and some tied to relationships with one specific man. You may want to get married but always find yourself with guys who don’t want to marry you. Marriage may not be on your radar due to the hidden feelings you have about your guy or marriage in general.
Consider the following reasons that impact your ability to get married. Think about what you can do to improve your chances of getting married, or be honest with yourself if you’re not interested in marriage.
Your Boyfriend Has Crazy or Demanding Exes
Your boyfriend may not be keen on marrying you- or anyone- if he’s had crazy or jealous ex-girlfriends. A guy who consistently talks about one or more crazy girlfriends, he might never want to get married.
You only hear his side of the story. The girlfriends may have been assertive or wanted a serious relationship when he didn’t want one. Unless you know the woman or women he complains about, don’t take his words as the absolute truth
He Doesn’t Respond to Hints
Many women are convinced men can’t take a hint, and you have to be direct with them. Some men may fit this description, but most don’t. If you keep dropping hints that you want to get married and he doesn’t respond, he’s not interested.
You shouldn’t have to drop hints every day. You can ask him directly, but be prepared to hear no or an excuse. Don’t push or beg him to get married; this will drive him away.
Be so wonderful he can’t help but propose to you. Act like yourself. Don’t try to act the way you think he wants you to act. Pretending you’re something you’re not can backfire on you. You want him to forget that other women exist. You want to be the only one for him.
Exhibit your natural personality. Be kind, considerate, and loving. If he doesn’t respond to you with a marriage proposal after a reasonable amount of time, your guy is not interested in a long-term relationship.
He Sets an Unspecified Wedding Date Way in the Future
You may think you have it made when a man agrees to marry you. However, you should both set a wedding date and stick to it. Be suspicious if he keeps pushing the date back. He probably won’t go through with a wedding if he won’t even go to get a marriage license within a reasonable time.
He Feels Obligated to Marry You
Some men feel obligated to marry a woman, and agree to do it even though they’re conflicted. His friends and family may push him to do it. A man should ask you to marry him if he wants to, not if he feels pressure from you or his family.
A man pressured into marriage will probably end up divorcing you at some point. If you remain in the marriage, it may be an unpleasant one filled with fights.
You Don’t Want Kids
Women who don’t want children usually don’t feel a need to get married. Most people who have children or want to have children eventually get married. Some people who have kids never get married. It’s no longer a taboo if you’re unmarried and living with the father of your child.
You may not feel the need to get a piece of paper to prove your love if you don’t want children. Some men (particularly older ones) will only marry a woman if she wants kids.
Talk with your guy if you don’t want kids, and he insists you have kids someday. You may be able to change his mind. You can also compromise and adopt a child instead of having your own.
Do what’s right for you. If you never want to have kids, let your Significant Other know you’re not going to change your mind. Some men think they can change a woman’s mind about having kids. You may have to break up with your guy if he continues to insist you have kids someday if you don’t want to have any children. Do what’s best for you.
You (Or Your Guy) Keep Waiting for the Right Time
A guy who keeps postponing marriage for “the right time” probably won’t marry you. He may be under stress from work, have financial problems or health problems. Delays are understandable if he has legitimate reasons.
If you want to marry your guy, but find that you keep pushing back the date, think about the real reason you’re delaying the nuptials. Are you afraid to marry him for financial or legal reasons? Do you still have feelings for an ex? Be truthful with yourself. You may want to talk with a trusted friend, family member, or a therapist about your feelings.
Don’t commit to the marriage unless you’re 100 percent sure you love your boyfriend and will work on the relationship even after you’re hitched.
He Doesn’t Want You to Meet His Family
A guy who loves you should introduce you to his family after the relationship has turned serious. Be concerned if you’ve never met your boyfriend’s family after you’ve dated for a while. If his family lives out of state or out of the country, he should arrange for you to meet them virtually on Skype, Facetime, or other apps.
As you get closer to marriage, they should travel to meet you, or you and your boyfriend should travel to meet them.
Now, if he tells you he has no living relatives, and this fact is verifiable, then don’t worry about it. However, even if he has no family, he should introduce you to friends, acquaintances, and co-workers. He should want to show you off to his social circle.
Some guys are embarrassed to introduce their girlfriend to their family. He should tell you if he has a strained relationship with his family or if they’re dysfunctional. A guy may be afraid to reveal information about his dysfunctional family early in your relationship.
As he gets to know you better, he should feel comfortable enough to tell you the truth about his family.
If you feel that you can’t introduce your boyfriend to your family, he’ll naturally be suspicious and may have second thoughts about marriage. If you want to get married, you need to be truthful about your relationship with your family as well.
He Acts Distant
When your guy suddenly starts acting cold or distant, he may be preoccupied with work or other stressors. If he remains distant and refuses to talk to you about why he’s doing it, he’s not marriage material. He may be dissatisfied with the relationship and hope you’ll break up with him.
If he lacks the guts to be truthful with you, you’ll be better off without him.
He Never Mentions You on Social Media or to His Friends
Any guy who won’t mention you on his Instagram or Facebook pages isn’t serious about you. Unless you and he agreed to keep your relationship status private, he should mention that he’s in a relationship with you on Facebook.
Some guys are more private than others. Discuss social media use if your guy is private about every area of his life, not just his relationship with you. If you’re bothered by his need for privacy, you’ll either need to compromise or consider ending the relationship.
If you become depressed or angry because he doesn’t mention you online, the relationship will not evolve into marriage. Most couples acknowledge their relationships online, and if you feel left out, this will lessen the chance you’ll marry this particular man.
He Doesn’t Make Plans for the Future
He’s not considering marriage or a serious relationship if he never includes you on vacations or social outings with friends or family. You may just be a fling to him. If he loves you and takes you seriously, he’ll plan outings and trips for both of you.
When a guy talks about moving to another state or making a major change, he should include you in his plans. A guy who uses “I” instead of “we” when mentioning long-term plans don’t want you in his life long enough to get married.
He’s showing you that you’re not an important part of his life if he doesn’t mention plans with you. Drop him and look for a guy who will take you seriously and include you in his life.
He Never Says I Love You
Some guys aren’t known for expressing their love verbally. However, you still deserve an occasional “I love you” from a steady boyfriend. (Be wary if a guy says, “I love you” too soon in the relationship. A guy who gets lovey-dovey too soon is desperate, and desperation doesn’t make for a good, long-term relationship.)
There’s always been a debate about who should say “I love you” first in a relationship. The “I love you’s” should spring naturally from a relationship. You shouldn’t worry about who says it first, but your guy should say, “I love you” sincerely after you’ve seen each other for a while. You may want to evaluate the seriousness of the relationship if you’ve been dating a few months, and he hasn’t said, “I love you.”
One or Both of You Won’t Compromise
A man who always has to have his way and never considers your opinions or feeling isn’t going you marry you. A real relationship involves discussion and compromise from both partners. If it’s always his way or the highway, that’s one of the signs you will never get married.
If you do give in to his strong personality, it will affect your self-esteem and may even harm your other relationships.
All successful marriages and relationships are a two-way street. If you find that you want him to do what you want all the time, you may need to learn how to compromise and consider his needs. There’s also a chance that he’s so different from you, belief and personality-wise, that you should end the relationship and look for a more suitable guy.
You’re Consumed by Your Job
If you are so dedicated to your career that you put your Significant Other on the back burner, you shouldn’t consider marrying anyone.
You may change your mind about being a workaholic in the future, or you may continue to devote yourself to your work until you decide to retire. Be honest with yourself about how much time you can devote to a serious relationship. Don’t lead a guy on and make him think you’ll spend lots of time with him, or marry him if your job is more important.
Workaholics do better with a causal relationship (or no relationship). Tell any guy you’re dating that you’re not interested in marriage or a serious relationship at the outset, so there’s no misunderstanding.
He Abuses You
Leave any guy or hits you or threatens to hit you when he’s angry. A man who hits or threatens women shouldn’t be in any relationship, much less get married. Don’t listen to him if he apologizes after he’s hit you. End the relationship and cut out all contact with him.
The longer you stay in an abusive relationship, the harder it will be to get out with suffering emotional and physical harm.
You are a Free Spirit
You may love your freedom and have lots of interests in your life that aren’t dependant on a romantic relationship. You may move from neighborhood to neighborhood or town to town. Maybe you like to travel on a moment’s notice, or you change jobs frequently.
You should be honest with any guy you’re dating if you have a free spirit-type personality. Let guys know you’re not interested in marriage and have a spontaneous attitude toward life. Unless you meet a guy with the same free-spirited beliefs, you probably won’t get into a steady relationship.
If you have an unorthodox personality, don’t let friends or family convince you to get married or get into a steady relationship unless that’s what you want. Going against your true self and getting married isn’t fair to you or to the guy, who will expect a traditional wife.
He Doesn’t Show Affection in Public
He’s not going to marry you if he’s all lovey-dovey at home, but won’t hold your hand or pay attention to you in public. When a guy truly loves a woman, he wants to let the world know. Although a couple doesn’t need to have a make-out session in public to show affection, an occasional sign of physical contact is healthy.
Your guy should touch your hand, kiss you, or show other signs of affection on a date or when you’re around other people. If your guy doesn’t show affection, he might be secretly seeing another woman or be embarrassed to let people know you’re his girlfriend.
Confront him about his lack of affection. A guy who truly cares for you will show affection for you in front of others.
His Parents Are Divorced
He might seem like a great catch, but be resistant to get married even though he treats you well and say he loves you. If he’s hesitant to get married, he may be a child of divorced parents.
When a mother and father get divorced when a child is young, it has a debilitating effect on their personality and attitude toward marriage. A guy may figure what’s the point of going through all the paperwork and expense of getting married when you’ll only get divorced a few years later?
After seeing his parents go through the nightmare of a bad marriage and divorce proceedings, he won’t want to take a chance and relive that scenario in his own life. His attitude has everything to do with his parents’ divorce and nothing to do with you.
Some guys will heal from a parents’ divorce in time, but others won’t. If you’re in love with a guy from a broken home, you need to decide if the good points in the relationship outweigh the fact that he doesn’t want to get married. Find a man who is more agreeable to marriage if that’s what you want.
You may be a child of divorce. If so, you’ll be hesitant about typing the knot. Remember to avoid being forced into marriage by any boyfriend if you feel it’s not right for you.
You’ve Been Hurt Before and Don’t Believe in Love
You may not believe in true love or marriage. You may have gone through a horrible break-up and want to stay away from serious relationships for the time being. If you still harbor feelings for an ex, it’s not fair to date a new guy unless you tell him you’re only looking for a casual relationship.
You may want to avoid dating anyone until you’re over your ex. Some people feel that love is an illusion, even though they’ve never been hurt in a relationship. If you feel this way, you may want to talk to a therapist to get to the root of why you feel that there’s no such thing as love.
Few people can have a satisfying life if they never experience true love, whether it ends in marriage or not.
You’re Not Ready to Get Married
You may want to get married someday, but being a wife is somewhere in your future. You might be in college or graduate school, or starting your career. Maybe you just ended a relationship and want t enjoy being single for a while
It’s essential to have many life experiences before you get married. The more experiences you have, the more you’ll be able to bring to a marriage or serious relationship.
Studies show that people who marry before their mid-20s to mid-30s are more likely to get divorced. When you wait to get married, you have a better idea about what you want and don’t want in a partner. Therefore, you’re less likely to marry the wrong person.
Enjoy your youth, and don’t think about marrying or having children until you’ve learned a lot about living in the real world outside of school. You may find you want to get married later in life, just live with someone, or never be in a serious relationship. The choice is up to you. Don’t let society, family, or friends dictate whether you should get married or stay single.
The above list of signs you will never get married is pretty common, although there are many others. It’s important to step back and take some quiet time for yourself and think about how marriage will affect your life, and if your current partner is marriage material.
Rushing into marriage because it’s what you think you should do is never a good idea. You have to have life experience, the right partner, and open communication with that partner for a marriage to work. Divorce is expensive and frustrating, so sometimes it’s better to wait to get married- or not get married at all.